What kind of Person are you? The effects of experiences

The world is filled with all types of people with different upbringings, pasts, opinions and views. How does this effect society and the world we live in today and more importantly the future lives we live?

God created us all different, but the one thing he gave us is the freedom of choice, or in psychological terms, “free will”. He enabled each one of us to think for ourselves and have our own views and opinions on everything from morals even to religion and Christianity. We were made with our own unique personalities, shaped by what we learnt through our childhood. This is known as the Psychodynamic approach- psychological terms. But what kind of person are you? Here’s a discussion on different behavioural approaches…

What were your past experiences like? Were they good or bad? Having good past experiences can affect you in two different ways, for example, lets say you had everything you wanted as a child. From this you could turn out as quite a spoilt, selfish person or having seen the positive effect of having the things you wanted could make you a happy and generous person, wanting to see others have what you did. God wants us to learn from what we have lived in our younger years and overcome any damaging experiences, using his strength to guide and protect us. I get this one quite a lot when I speak to people about God. They say that they have had bad past experiences in the church or relating to a bereavement and they are quite abrupt and bitter, because they haven’t been able to accept that God could allow this to happen and they blame him for how they react. Things happen to us to make us better people, for example, if we overcome something really bad that’s happened, we will be much stronger and susceptive Christians. Being angry at God will not get us anywhere, in times like these we need to draw closer to God for comfort and not push him further away.

The importance of living a healthy Junior life
It’s so important that we are careful what Is fed into our own minds and the minds of our younger generation. It can cause major characteristics to form in us like being dominate, aggressive and uncaring. I watched a show the other night about offending teens. There were two brothers that grew up together in the Wolverhampton town of Birmingham, UK and they had been the recipients of watching violence between their parents. They later by the age of around 8 began to cause havoc on the streets, being violent, using and selling drugs, committing burglaries and robberies and setting things on fire. Violence can effect us growing up. This can also effect you in two ways, one, you could project that hurt and anger onto others, a or seeing this could make you a person who always makes peace. However, these behaviours from the young brothers were likely to be caused by having such a bad example of relationships and interaction through their parents, this is not ignoring that young people with good role models can also be capable of this.

The truth is, because we are all different, we all react differently to things that happen to us, even though some behaviours are similar. our behaviours as a whole group or society can either damage or benefit us. If people begin or continue to behave in ways that cause negative and harmful effects on others, this will cause behaviours on a whole to be more negative. Or if we choose to behave in ways that are benefitting others, this will ultimately make an improvements in ourselves and others. If you find an experience has effected you in a negative way, its important that we take this to God through prayer and reading his word to overcome this feeling. keeping it will be harmful to you, effecting future relationships thoughts and feelings.

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Thanks for reading this post, I hope you found it interesting and it made you look into your own experiences and how you’ve been effected personally. Keep your eyes open for the next post guys!! xoxo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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